June 09, 2009 05:50 PM by Britteny Elrick
Today, Tori Spelling opened up on her Oxygen blog about the topic on everybody’s mind: sex. She talks about the differences between men and women and how we measure a healthy sex lifein our relationships. Tori also touches on emotional stability and all kinds of other things. The blog is appropriately titled: Why Can’t Men Just Cuddle?
“Sex is a funny thing… Men and women have such different reactions to the notion of a healthy and alive sexual relationship. Dean and I have a very healthy and alive sex life. Let having two babies in two years show that to be true! But Dean always seems to refer to the “sex we used to have”. Ok, it’s true… When men and women start a relationship they have over the top sex. Sex records that one could never be expected to maintain or top over a lifetime. It’s unrealistic. I guess it’s instinct… We meet… We have sex… We have lots of sex… Good sex… And then bam, deem that partner worthy of spending the rest of our lives with. But, once that mate selection is made the sex life does seem to slow down a bit.
That’s just life. If we had start-up sex forever we would never get anything accomplished in life. Start-up sex would be our career, life, partner, and hobby all in one. So, in my opinion (and I’m a woman talking)… We get our crazy sex out of the way first and then settle into what I deem a healthy, active sexual relationship.
The problem is men think that a healthy, active sexual relationship is sex three times a day while the woman’s internal dictionary defines it as three times a week and maybe four if you happen to unsolicited do something beyond your usual boy duties… Like bring home flowers, spontaneous foot massage, or say “go sit down honey… I’ll make dinner tonight…bathe the kids… And put them down for bed while you relax in bed and watch ‘The Real Housewives of NYC.’” I find that very healthy! What I don’t find healthy is the fact that men can’t just cuddle. I say spoon me cause my feet are cold… He tells me I’m getting him all HOT. We just have different agendas sexually and emotionally.
I equate emotional stability to how many times my husband has hugged me in a day and how interested is he in hearing me rant about calling Whole Foods and after being on hold 15 minutes being told they did carry a certain produce and driving there to indeed find that heirloom tomatoes were nowhere to be found. Thus leaving my recipe for a summer tri color heirloom and burrata cheese caprese not possible. So long family dinner! So long dreams! (Ok, I’m being dramatic… I’m a chick.) He, however equates emotional stability to how many times a day I’ve glanced at his lower region, notice he’s strengthened his pectorals, and how many times I want to jump his bones! Men have the most romantic terms! All in all it makes me laugh.
Men are truly simple creatures… Feed them and give up your body for sex and they are happy. It’s us complicated women gender that need and want so much more. But hey… We deserve it!”
Be sure to catchthe new episode of Tori and Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood, which airs on Oxygen onTuesdays at 10pm ET/PT.
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