December 07, 2010 07:00 AM by Shayla Perry
It’s been quite a few years since her Spice Girl days, and Melanie Brown (aka Mel B, or “Scary Spice”), host of Oxygen’s Dance Your Ass Off is now a mom of two (Phoenix, 11, and Angel, 3), a step-mom of one (Giselle, 6), and getting ready to star in her own reality show, It’s a Scary World. So what’s motherhood been like for the former pop star so far?
Babble.com caught up with Mel B and asked her a few questions about parenting and why she refuses to let motherhood totally change her life.
Whatâ€™s your parenting philosophy?
Do as I say, not as I do.
If you could teach your daughters one life lesson, what would it be?
Always follow your gut instinct, and hopefully the gut instinct is right.
How do you manage a public tantrum?
With my three-year-old, I say, â€œOkay, Iâ€™m just going to leave you there,â€ and let her think Iâ€™ve gone somewhere. Then, Iâ€™ll peek around the corner to keep my eye on her, and sheâ€™ll stop because sheâ€™s not getting any attention from me.
Did you use that same tactic with your older daughter?
No. She gets grounded, or sheâ€™ll get her TV taken away from her, or [the entire] weekend â€” something she enjoys.
What shocked you most about parenting?
My mom was one of seven, so Iâ€™ve been surrounded by kids my whole entire life, so nothing really shocks me. If it wasnâ€™t for being part of Spice Girls, I wouldâ€™ve had kids a lot earlier. I take each day as it comes. I donâ€™t put pressure on myself to be a perfect parent. I love my kids, I adore my kids, and I try as much as possible to set a good example. There [are] definitely a lot of funny things that come along with being a parent, like when my 11-year-old asks about boys and kissing, but I approach it how my mother wouldâ€™ve approached it, which is being honest. Weâ€™re all about being honest in our household and telling the truth, no matter what the consequences are.
Is it difficult to have an eight-year age gap between your daughters?
My 11-year-old is like a mini-mom to my three-year-old; she helps out a lot!
Do the girls get along?
Well, my three-year-old can be a bit of a nightmare. Sheâ€™s a bit of a screamer. If she doesnâ€™t get her way, sheâ€™ll try and attack my older daughter, but that doesnâ€™t go very far.
Whatâ€™s off-limits in your house?
Soda. But once a week they have their candy day, so they can eat candy and drink a little bit of soda if they want â€” and they do!
Whatâ€™s your biggest parenting challenge?
Making sure you give each of your kids the same amount of attention. Between my three-year-old, my six-year-old and my 11-year-old, my eyeâ€™s on my three-year-old the most, making sure sheâ€™s listening to me and doesnâ€™t fall in the pool. But itâ€™s about splitting your time individually, so each child gets the same amount of attention, which is definitely challenging.
For the rest of Mel B’s Babble interview, click here.
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